Relationships
Hypnosis for relationship jealousy
Quiet the checking and comparing, and feel secure in your own place.
Relationship Jealousy is a session for the urge to check phones and the habit of comparing yourself to others.
It settles the body first, then spends most of the time on a feeling of safety in your own place, without needing to change anything else. You can choose how the voice speaks to you.
You check the phone screen and find nothing, but you check again five minutes later. The mind picks at the same small details of the day, turning a short delay into a long story about where you stand.
This is not really about what is happening now, but about what might be happening somewhere else.
What’s in it
A calmer mind, an end to the checking, and a relationship that feels safe again.
Why do it
A few quiet minutes settle the insecurity underneath, which is where the jealousy actually comes from.
- Theme
- Relationships
- Delivery styles
- 3
- Lengths
- Quick ~26mStandard ~27mDeep ~29m
- Ends
- Calm and present
- Stages
- 4
- On this shelf
- 16 sessions
Perfect use-case: Relationship Jealousy — hypnosis session
Jealousy peaks in the small gaps where nothing can be known for certain.
What you’ll hear in the Relationship Jealousy session
The session starts by naming the urge to check, then uses physical heaviness to let the body settle so the mind can stop picking at details and find a still space instead.
You are noticing that urge to check, the constant comparing that steals your peace
That feeling is here now, and you are ready to let it go, finding a calm that settles deep within you
As you hear these words, your body can begin to feel a little heavier, as if a gentle weight is pressing you comfortably down into wherever you are resting
This heaviness is a signal, a physical invitation for your mind to relax and let the tensions of the day just melt away
You are safe to feel this deep sense of comfort beginning to spread throughout your entire being
This sensation of calm can flow down from the top of your head, washing over your shoulders and arms
It can continue its slow journey down your back and your chest, bringing a warm, settled feeling to your core
Every muscle can begin to release its hold, to unclench and soften into this profound state of rest
- noticing that urge to checkthe session starts by naming what you already feel, so it feels familiar and real
- a gentle weighta physical cue tells your mind it’s safe to relax — that’s the point
- muscle can begin to release its holdyour body is led step by step, so the mind follows naturally
Timeline: Start to Finish
The middle suggestion block is designed to rehearse a steady sense of place. It spends time on the idea of a secure standing, repeating it until the checking feels like a habit you have outgrown.
3 of the 4 stages are named techniques with a published origin, credited under each.
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InductionStage 16 min
Progressive Muscle Relaxation
A classic head-to-toe relaxation. Tense and release, or simply soften, each muscle group in sequence.
After Edmund Jacobson PMR (1929); Dave Elman Hypnotherapy · what progressive muscle relaxation is
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DeepenerStage 23 min
Staircase Descent
Visualized stairs descending into a deeper level of trance. Each step takes you down.
After Ledochowski, Deep Trance Training Manual
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Suggestion ScriptStage 310 min
Relationship Jealousy — Balanced
Replaces the rehearsal of checking and comparing with a felt sense of security in your own place.
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AwakeningStage 42 min
Calm Alert Awakening
Awake and present, but calm rather than energized. Good for evening or pre-meeting use.
After Yapko, Trancework
Why this works — and what the research actually says
Group-level, not session-level: no study has tested this exact session, and we will not pretend otherwise. Every source below was opened and read on 2026-08-25 before it was quoted.
Why do it as hypnosis?
The checking and the worry are both rehearsals your mind is already very good at. This uses the same system of rehearsal but points it at a different story, at a time when nothing else is asking for your attention.
It does not remove the other person from the picture; it changes the story you rehearse about them while you sit still.
What 20 years of meta-analyses actually found
Hypnosis as a whole has been studied a great deal. The strongest results are for pain and for people going through medical procedures, and the quality of the studies varies enormously. Some found large effects.
Some found nothing at all.
- 49 reviews, covering 261 separate randomised trials
- Strongest evidence: pain, and medical procedures
- Study quality is very uneven, and the authors say so
Worth knowing: The same overview rates only nine of those 49 meta-analyses as high methodological quality and 26 of them as critically low, and notes that 28 reported nothing at all about safety.
It is the best map of the field that exists, and it says the field is uneven.
The exact wording and figures
A 2024 overview pooled 49 meta-analyses covering 261 separate randomised controlled trials of hypnosis. Effects ran from d = -0.04 to d = 2.72, and just under two-thirds of the reported effects reached significance.
The strongest evidence was for people undergoing medical procedures and for pain.
An overview of reviews, which is a study of other studies rather than new patients. Useful because it is the widest honest view of where hypnosis has evidence and where it does not.
Three ways to say it
Same goal, written three ways: pick the voice you would believe when the phone lights up and the old story starts to write itself.
Balanced
Quiet the checking and comparing, and feel secure in your own place. The default.
Quiet the checking and comparing, and feel secure in your own place.
Future self
Picture the version of you who is secure in yourself and steady in your relationship.
Picture the version of you who is secure in yourself and steady in your relationship.
New identity
Step into being secure in yourself and steady in your relationship, starting now.
Step into being secure in yourself and steady in your relationship, starting now.
Questions people ask about Relationship Jealousy
Will this stop me feeling jealous entirely?
No. The session works on the checking habit and the rehearsal underneath it. The feeling may still visit, but the urge to act on it can lose its grip.
What if I'm sceptical this can work by listening?
Scepticism is just another thought passing through. You do not have to believe the words for the body to settle; the physical relaxation step does not require belief.
How is this different from just telling myself to stop checking?
Willpower fights the urge head-on and usually loses under stress. This settles the body first, then points the same rehearsal system at a different story.
Is it safe to use alongside therapy for jealousy?
Yes. It is a passive listening exercise, not a replacement for therapy. If jealousy is causing severe distress, a therapist should be your primary support.
What happens if I fall asleep during the session?
The words are not instructions you need to follow consciously. If you sleep, the body still gets the rest, though you may get less from the rehearsal shift.
Where it sits
Other people: the ones you keep, the ones you lost, the ones you avoid.
Before you press play
- Not the right session right now if any of these are live for you: any relationship where you feel unsafe.
Hypnosis is not for everyone. If you have epilepsy, a psychotic illness, or you are under psychiatric care, talk to your clinician before using this — here or anywhere.
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